June 5th, 2007
Black- White Marriage, how do you feel about it?
My brother married a white woman. David and Sara have 2 lovely children and I love the family. David is my sibling closes to my age. We went sliding together as kids in our yard, played football and I use to dunk on him backwards. My brother is 6ft 3 and I am 6ft 2. He is in the music industry but also sells cars. Brothers do not always see eye to eye and yesterday was one of those days.
We were talking about sports; David always takes the opposite opinion of mine. He was making the ludicrous point that Tim Duncan was better than Patrick Ewing. You may know I love the Knicks. I told my brother it figured he would love a soft playing big man that even a old white referee wanted to fight. I went on to say Duncan was married to a white woman, why did I say that. I further mention, Bill Cartwright was married to a white woman out of college and we tried to name the black ball[ players,] no pun intended, that had married white. For some reason, David got very mad and spoke to me in a way he never would if I was in the same room.
He somehow felt this black white talk was upsetting because he married white. Now we are brothers and have always been close but I have to stop being my self because he has a white wife? This point to the tension black-white marriages can cause in families. It is becoming more and more normal. I found a site that puts humor in it. Check it out. To my little brother, I love you but that will not stop me from kicking your ass is you get upset over nothing again.
Pay a visit to AfroRomance, humor is used in a profound way to explore this once taboo subject. I would like to get advice on how I can be more sensitive in dealing with this issue in my own family. Help a brother out!
June 5th, 2007 at 5:34 pm
Hey JD,
Let me shed some light on the subject
for You my brother. Hear this in the
love of God. When You notice that in
the beginning, Then God said, “Let there be light” and there was light.
Notice that God didn’t say Black, White, Brown or any color, but He
said “Let there be light”. Knowing
that He is the Creator of the Beautiful Rainbow. None of us can
change God’s Design for mankind, we
just have to enjoy the light.
You see JD, the common ground is our
hearts, that where God brings unity
among mankind. Nothing external of any living being can bring godly unity. Notice what Jesus Christ did
over 2007 years ago at the cross.
To restore the blessing of God Our
Father, His only begotten Son, the
Very Word of God, came into our heart
to heal the common ground.
See the root of every problem is in the heart of mankind. Now that is the
truth in love and it will stand in
every generation. God’s Word is His
Will and we can only be blameless in
God’s love.
Can You see now the Desire of God’s Compassion, the justice of God Almighty flowing like a river
throughout the earth.
Remember we shared what God said
Genesis 1:1-5 and John 1:1-5 the
other day. You can see the Big Bible Picture clearly “In” Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the living God.
Be Blessed always-FaithWorks
Our God is One, Keep Hope Alive!
June 5th, 2007 at 5:55 pm
Take a step back and take a deep breath. Hopefully, you will reconsider your position.
June 5th, 2007 at 5:56 pm
This is a tough one. I can’t speak as eloquently as the poster above me but I can say this: The black/white thing will, of course, always be an issue for myself and my husband and our families. This we know and do our best to accept.
It’s odd though that while I/we try to let comments, meant at times in jest and at times in all seriousness about, ”effing white people” and Deels having , ”married white”, I would never in one thousand years tolerate similar comments from my own family or friends about, ”effing black people” or anything remotely related.
Given the history of white privilege, I know it’s not asking or expecting a lot but sometimes it is a really, really strange position. Please don’t read this as, ”I’m so terrific! I don’t tolerate/invite/enjoy racism! YAY ME!” I don’t mean it that way; it’s just that sometimes when the whole rest of the world is commenting on, silently or with words, your choice of spouse, it’s hard to hear it from family, as well.
Meh. I think I have talked myself into a hole and not been terribly helpful. Thanks for the link to AfroRomance. Going to check it out now.
June 5th, 2007 at 10:15 pm
The interesting thing to me is the stereotype of a black man and white woman vs. a white man and black woman. A black man and white woman seems to raise the ire of both blacks and whites, but the latter seems to be more acceptable for some reason.
I guess the only good news here is, with enough generations, perhaps well make it to a neutral color and it won’t matter anymore.
June 6th, 2007 at 12:19 pm
Rev Jim, you are a wonderful leader exhibiting interpretations for us all to learn from. Thanks.
June 6th, 2007 at 12:23 pm
Charming, thank you for your perspective. I have learned a lot through my brother’s marriage about myself. I am growing and have learned to be more understanding than in the past You did not dig a hole, you showed the courage to speak. Many people are uncomfortable about this topic
June 6th, 2007 at 12:27 pm
Doug,the white man black woman relationship has always been a norm, ask Thomas Jefferson or Strong Thurman, well they are both dead now but many black slaves were loved by white men. However it may have been unwise for them to say no! Doug I noticed a lovely lady left you a nice message on your site. Is it time to explore?
June 6th, 2007 at 12:53 pm
sam, thanks!
June 6th, 2007 at 1:49 pm
Jim,
You have amazing insight. Yes, I am exploring. We have a casual lunch this week. Too funny.
Doug
June 6th, 2007 at 3:22 pm
You are the man! Get to know each other and have fun
June 6th, 2007 at 3:42 pm
Hi All,
I emigrated to the US at 12 yrs. old. Coming from Guyana, I’d always known white people. My great grandfather was a white mix (irish, portugese) and my nana was black (blue-black), they were married and raised six children. Coming to American I was soo confused and upset. Not about the racial divide; they exist everywhere and amongst ourselves. Why does this marrying a white woman provoke such hard feelings in the country. I know, I know.. History but it is a shared history.
I applaud any man, woman who seeks and finds love, life in a person of a different race. I myself have been married to my Vietnamese Man for eleven years, now.
In truth, I believe that “race mixing” is one way of racial reconcilation. I look at my daughter with her chinky eyes, button nose and brown skin and marvel. And I thank my family for always knowing that all love comes from and belongs to God.
Thanks for the time
June 6th, 2007 at 4:28 pm
On Interracial Marriage…
On the news that I’ve been attached to the Rsspect Project, I found some interesting new blackified blogs. In Black in Business (hmm, why do you think I went there first?) we encounter the old Loving question:He somehow felt this…
June 6th, 2007 at 5:04 pm
nemsis, thanks, your sharing is helpful regarding this complex topic
June 6th, 2007 at 5:04 pm
Cobb, thanks for the shout out
June 17th, 2007 at 11:57 am
I enjoyed reading your blog.I came over to America from Australia 5 years ago. I have mixed Aboriginal races in my family We don’t judge any ones colour. After Arriving in America I married my Dream Man I met on the internet in 1999. I am white He was Afro American. We had a short wonderful 2 1/5 years Together, unfortunatly he passed away. from a servere heart attack. 2 years ago coming this August.It does not matter what colour race or creed you are. The most important thing to each and everyone of us is,Go with what your heart says.One day I hope to meet another wonderful Afro American man whom I can spend the rest of my life with.
June 24th, 2007 at 9:37 pm
Bravo to all of the wonderful comments out there from those who understand that God does not see color:-) God is love in all shapes, sizes, and colors!
Love to all!
June 25th, 2007 at 11:29 am
Belinda, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my first wife when I was 33.She was 36 and it was very difficult to move on. Time does lessen the pain. I am sure ther are some wonderful brothers that would love to meet you. Good luck!
June 25th, 2007 at 11:31 am
Madena,thank you for stopping by and for your postive energy.
June 25th, 2007 at 8:33 pm
Thankyou Jim
I am now talking to a wonderful man I met on AfroRomance,I will let you know how it goes.
Belinda
June 26th, 2007 at 2:29 pm
Good luck!!
July 8th, 2008 at 4:39 pm
all the people in the world,its high time for us to evolve,we thnk and call us humans but we never consider acting like that. as part of being humans its natural and obvious aspect that we will and have to fall in love someway or the other, the choice of the partner depends on our own taste and demand, but its a shame on all of you out there who take color as a parameter when choosing a lover. its bcoz you never even asked yourself that whites and blacks share a same human heart or not. cut your palm and ask your black buddy or white buddy to do the same and you will be shamed of what u thought …..grow up and be matured ..we all have a loving heart and know how to give and take it..its upto us if we can ampilfy or welcome it more or not..god created all of us..and if we keep on acting like racist fools we will end up nowere instead of being but of all insults..think about it..and consider all humans to be the same..color diffrences was created by god to create diverse variations among all of us..he did not want us to look like clones..
dont make love sound so rustic..and be open and free when it comes you come to the issue
leading a legacy of evolution.
Peenac James Dey